Saturday, October 29, 2016

Parenting - 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family...A review and a giveaway

by Paul David Tripp

A Review and a Giveaway

In the midst of folding laundry, coordinating carpool schedules, and breaking up fights, many parents get lost. Feeling pressure to do everything “right” and raise up “good” children, it’s easy to lose sight of our ultimate purpose as parents in the quest for practical tips and guaranteed formulas.
In this life-giving book, Paul Tripp offers parents much more than a to-do list. Instead, he presents us with a big-picture view of God’s plan for us as parents. Outlining fourteen foundational principles centered on the gospel, he shows that we need more than the latest parenting strategy or list of techniques. Rather, we need the rescuing grace of God—grace that has the power to shape how we view everything we do as parents.  Freed from the burden of trying to manufacture life-change in our children’s hearts, we can embrace a grand perspective of parenting overflowing with vision, purpose, and joy. 

Mr. Tripp covers 14 gospel principles which can be applied to parenting. 
1. Calling
2. Grace
3. Law
4. Inability
5. Identity
6. Process
7. Lost
8. Authority
9. Foolishness
10. Character
11. False gods
12. Control
13. Rest
14. Mercy

My Thoughts:

I am so thankful that I accepted the offer to review this book.  I knew that I would be out of town a good chunk of the time, and that finding the time to read and review this book might be challenging.  But something about the title and the description was intriguing.  So I accepted.  And I am so glad that I did.  Mr. Tripp's parenting book isn't what I expected from a parenting book.  It isn't like so many of the other parenting books that I have read.

I have had so many ah-ha moments during the past few weeks.  It is as if a burden is being lifted off of my shoulders.  I am seeing parenting in a whole new way, through God's eyes.  Of what He expects from us, and what He doesn't. 

He does expect us to take parenting seriously.  Of course He does; He has entrusted us with precious treasures.  But He has never expected us to be miracle workers.  It is not our purpose to change our children, to make and mold them into perfect little people.  We can't do that, no matter how hard we try. Changing the heart is God's work, not our ours.  We are to lead and correct and point them to Jesus.  Jesus takes it from there.

We are to show grace, lots and lots of grace.  Not one parent is or ever has been perfect.  So why do expect that our children should be?  They will never be perfect; they are works in progress just like we are.  And we should show grace, just as God shows grace to us.

We mustn't take our children's offenses personal.  So many are guilty of comments such as, "How could you do that? After all I've done for you."  Mr. Tripp points out that for the most part, children sin, just because they are sinners.  Not because they purposely set out to irritate you or embarrass you or get back at you.  They are just sinners, plain and simple.  And as such, they will mess up...a lot.  Just like we do.  Show grace and show love and keep nudging them back to Jesus.  There are rarely overnight triumphs; it a journey and we must be faithful.

Mr. Tripp also points out the dangers of finding your identity in your children.  You shouldn't take too much of the credit when your child does well.  And you also mustn't take too much of the blame when your child fails.  God doesn't give a child to parents so that the parents can find their self-worth in their child.  We are stewards; taking care of God's children.  I am so grateful that He has entrusted me to be a steward of these precious children in my life, and I want to be found faithful.

Mr. Tripp has helped me to see parenting in a way that I haven't thought much about before.  It is a freeing concept, taking away some of the huge burden that parents often place on themselves, a burden that God never intended for them to carry.

Would you like to purchase a copy of this book?  Here is the link from Amazon. 

FlyBy Promotions has graciously offered me one copy of the book as a giveaway.  Please leave a comment here or on Facebook for your chance to receive the free copy.  I will randomly select one comment on November 1, 2016.

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